“I know you know”
This public window is known to self and also known to others. It is the field of open communication. This is where trust may flourish.
“I don’t know you know”
This window represents your blind spots. It is the field where you might feel vulnerable. This is where self-discovery is a possibility for growth.
“I know you don’t know”
This private window is your mask. It is the hidden field. This is where you keep your secrets.
"I don’t know and you don’t know”
This window represents the black box. It is the unknown field. This is where there is room for potential.
The Johari Window is a graphic demonstration of what we know about ourselves versus what others know about us. Analyzing this window helps you to expand the first window particularly in relationships where you wish to have a more intimate relationship. Open communication is vital to promote trust in a relationship. Even though you may feel you are open and honest in a relationship, if the other person in that relationship doesn’t feel that you are, they will have a difficult time trusting you.
It’s also important to your journey to bring material from all sources possible including your friends and your own unconscious to enable you to examine what is beyond your knowing about yourself. In some cases you may be able to ask people in your outer world. Although some things that are known about you will not be revealed to you by your friends because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. This is one of the main areas where your dream-maker is most helpful. Your dream-maker will always be honest with you. However since dreams usually speak in the language of symbols you may have difficulty understanding the message. We will discuss dreamwork in coming sessions. Our next session will deal with the Call to Adventure/Evolution. Asking you to begin paying attention to and interact with your dreams is indeed a call to adventure and evolution.
You may also want to explore what people in your life know about you that you do not know. The following link to an interactive Johari Window test may help. After choosing words you think describe yourself, you are asked to send the test to your friends so that you can compare what they endorse about you with what you yourself endorsed.
http://kevan.org/johari
Assignment:
Journal about your secrets. Journal about what you think others might say about you. Remember this is your private journal. If you can’t be open and honest with yourself for fear of your journal being found, consider keeping your journal online where it can be kept private. Then even if you die, no one will be able to access your private journal. There are several services available for keeping a private journal. I recommend. DreamJournal.net or LiveJournal.com. Both have an option for making your journal open, so make sure you have your settings right.
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